It’s interesting to realise that, in this marriage, I am the arsehole

I was complaining to my husband about the father of my girls and how he never, ever meets me halfway in trying for a civil relationship, even now that our children are grown and any possible stress triggers are gone. Husband has his own issues with his ex-wife but he doesn’t say anything bad about her and it irritates the hell out of me sometimes; probably because it shows my up own deficiencies.

Today was such a day. He counselled me that the reason ex ignored my email, congratulating and thanking him on doing such a good job on helping our daughter out and being a great dad, during the recent car crash crisis recently, was probably nothing personal and it was better for my peace of mind to let it go; that he found it more freeing of spirit to ‘not let other people’s shortcomings clutter up his own mind’.

He truly is a good a man and he always tried to look for alternative explanations for bad behaviour so as to represent the accused in the best possible light.

Well, me, I always see the dark side and sometimes I just want to complain, you know?

I am afraid my response of “Fuck off, Buddha!” was not a step down the path of spiritual enlightenment.

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About quirkycharm

I like to think that I have a certain quirky charm but I am probably being optimistic. Acquired taste, perhaps, which many don't acquire. This is about my fifth blog out there. My hosting companies kept going out of business or my IT exhusband kept hacking into them and I would move again. I don't do twitter, I barely do facebook, I don't try and 'monetize' my blog. I love my husband, my grown children and my job and this particular incarnation of oversharing my life comes at a time when I am the most content that I have ever been. I write always, sporadically during the good stuff and exhaustingly during the bad.
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2 Responses to It’s interesting to realise that, in this marriage, I am the arsehole

  1. Cate says:

    I love your husband’s attitude and I am going to try to adopt it more in my own life. But I laughed out your loud at your reply! X

    Cate

  2. quirkycharm says:

    Sometimes it is exhausting being married to the good guy! xxx

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