Accidentally, but still I’ll take it.
My youngest daughter tagged me in on a facebook meme that basically said “if I turn into my mother, or even half the woman she is, I’ll consider my life a successful one.”
She added, “compassionate, determined and career driven; just a few of the qualities I look up to”.
I am recording this here not because I am boastfully proud; more that I am humbled. I love my daughters so much and I’ve always thought I wasn’t that great a mother. I tried, I really did but there was a little sneaky voice inside me that said proper mothers find it all comes naturally. Not for me.
I read a lot of parenting books, I even took courses to teach me new ways of giving my children what society said they needed. I carried over some of my own mother’s behaviours and disregarded the ones that were harmful to me as a child. I reinforced the values I thought important and made sure my girls could see me putting them into practice.
But I always accepted that my girls were individuals, with their own characters and plans. I could only model and hope they were intelligent enough to mirror the right things.
That’s why my girl’s post hit me hard in the feels department. It makes me feel I got it just a little right here and there and that is so rewarding.